Friday, March 3, 2017
As the Lenten season gets under way I really like taking advantaged of the energy of the collective consciousness in support of my own endeavors. This year I have chosen two things, my norm is an all out hard core Master Cleanse or Daniel Fast which I believe is harder than the Master Cleanse because it incorporates limited food.
Well, this year i’m fasting from sweets; donuts, cakes, candies, chocolate, desserts and as an added bonus I decided to throw in complaining. Boy oh boy!!!!! I thought this will be a piece of cake! That was my mistake lol! It is day two and as I’m driving back from Whole Foods the crossing guard standing at the corner is holding out the sign to stop. He is holding it and speaking to the ladies across the street. I want to make a right turn. They are crossing the opposite side of the street which is a one way coming toward me so ‘I couldn’t have driven in that direction anyway. Did I mention he is holding the sign for me to stop. Me who is on the opposite side of the four cornered street from them wanting to make a right turn. In fact my right blinker is blinking and my GIGI (the car) is slightly turned in that direction. So As I watch them cross one side of the street to the next and then another corner to my left and I watch him talking jovially with them, the first murmurs of complaining start to creep in. Now they are walking on the sidewalk to my left and walking away from him and he is still holding out the sign with his left arm as if he has long forgotten that it was there and there’s no rush or care. It is then that I hear myself say aloud “Lets Go’ with a stern motherly chastising tone, then I catch it! I am aware of a complaint. I’m finally and fully aware that Lent and my healing is in action. Because I asked it is given. As I turn the corner laughing I drive perhaps less than a minute and I’m given another opportunity to practice and catch it quicker this time as I watch a woman crossing a pedestrian walk wile reading something on her phone and stop just shy of being off the walk way to really read what she was seeing. I took a deep breath in, acknowledged what was being offered, moved into acceptance and rolled with it just as it.
Now this might come as a surprise to you because I am a Spiritual Teacher and if you have ever met me you will know that I always say I am, as we all are, both teacher and student. I have my day’s. I have not nor shall I ever profess to have gotten it all right. In fact I’m am perfectly imperfect and although every day I reach for and strive to stand in my Divinity I am here on the planet, walking this human walk with all the other Masters, including you. If you are on the Planet you are a highly evolved Spiritual Being and It is high time we all started behaving as such.
Because you have so much support and if you’d like to join me take a moment this season to either give over something for GOoD or embrace something for GoOD. Give yourself the gift of change and the support of your other sisters and brothers in humanity of all faiths that are in a moment of High and Holy Observance.
This may be the most challenging Lent yet, it will certainly be the most fun and engaging because I am being offered the opportunity to go deeper and to live more fully in my heart where only love lives.
Go deeper is the invitation this season. Deep into Love, deeper not your practice, Deeper into you.
Wishing you the best with all the Love my heart can hold and deeper still,
Sunday, January 29, 2017
An Open Letter To Align With Your Greater GoODWhat a wonderful time to be alive. I am the eternal optimist and I truly believe that. I believe that because I feel optimistic. I do not allow myself to get swept up in what is and instead can look upon this experience we are collectively having as an opportunity to take a stand for something greater than what is being experienced. This is what has kept my heart open to love and open to the presence of GoOD in all things. I simply know and whole heartedly trust that there must be a purpose and a greater GoOD that is coming from this experience no matter what is happening.
There have been complaints of complacency in our community, this I have heard talk of even in my own circle. I have heard complaints that once the civil rights were over we as a people, especially African American have become complacent with what we have been given, what civil liberties and rights we gained from the activity of our ancestors and friends alive and passed on. This complacency wasn’t just from African Americans, it was from our Caucasian sisters and brothers and friends of all nationalities that marched with us. We stood in harmony arm and arm. When we reached a certain point, the fighting and marching and taking a stand stopped, we began to resume our lives. We ignored what small disregarded liberties remained. We ignored them and little by little more infringements began to filter their way back into our life. What effect one effects all. This last election has given us an opportunity to embody, embrace and create a new civil rights movement into a catalytic affair. We have been given a gift of magnificent proportion. We have the capacity to get involved with life once again. Not just our life but all life for truly no one is free until we are all free.
I can’t say for sure what to do, although there is plenty to do. That isn’t my speciality. My speciality is helping you turn that frown upside down. Helping us all to see that this is an opportunity of a magnitude we in our life time have yet to see. Truthfully I have had my moments of tears and fears. I have used it not as a place to wallow like a grave yard for my hopes and dreams. I have used it as a wading pool, walking through it to get to the other side; the side of action. My first action was to find the energy that motivates me. My motivation is joy. What brings me joy? Sharing a kind word, and uplifting thought and supporting others in their journey fills my heart like nothing else. So I suppose I do have a “you can do this” suggestion. I can say what to do as my suggestion and contribution to alleviate the feelings of stuck-ness that can happen when there is so much to do. My “what to do” isn’t for everyone nor is it all there is to do. It is just one branch on a tree filled with life giving opportunities to continue our connection as a human family. Find what is yours to do. Prayerfully it brings people closer together and is empowering. If what you are doing generates life and life more abundantly for all then keep at it. If what you are doing is only saving you and your immediate family stretch yourself a little further out there because each one needs one…….another to survive.
Today I allowed myself to tap into the presidential drama going on. I did so mindfully, as a tool to be able to stay connected with my fellow Americans. I used it like the side and rear view mirror in my car, not as the destination but a tool of discernment to see what steps I need to take to get to my destination, to orient myself to see with more focus what I want to create. Have you made hate your destination? Are you dragging it along with you toward love? Have you made fear your destination? Are you carrying it with you in your actions? Have you made separation a part of destination on your way to creating world peace? When you get caught up in the whirlpool of mayhem that is ensuing in the media stop for a moment and ask what results you really are looking for? If your desire is peace then what you do must come from a place of peace. If your desire is love what you do must be birthed from a place of love. Think of Ghandi or Martin Luther King. They effected great change without using hate, fear, aggression, anger, judgement or blame. They used love, hope, faith, peace, discernment to be the foundation for the change. We must come to the problem from the eye of the solution which is to say not using the same techniques utilized in creating the problem.
Today, reach out, connect with a neighbor, a family member, a friend or a long lost aunt. Connect, reach out and touch someone. Speak to the person in the grocery line. Say hello to the cashier and share a smile. Let people know you care. Share your love. The more we reach out to others the more we continue to grow in awareness that we are ALL in this together. Practice non-judgement. This means be more open to compassion and understanding others and less preachy about how you got to where you were so they can change too. We each are given the capacity to become our greatest selves. What supports that isn’t criticism or complaints and while that will make things grow, kinda like manure, it stinks. Try a sunshine of complements and a rain fall of “you can do its.” I know you can!
I know you can find something positive about this election. I know that you can utilize what we have been given as a catalyst for transformation in our world. Whether it is opening your doors for more community events, becoming involved in politics, taking a bike to work, using public transportation, carpooling, supporting your local something, I don’t know exactly. What I do know is that you should allow it fuel your connection to each other and to life. Be committed and determined to see what ways you might, even in the littlest way, separate yourself from someone else then find, seek and see the commonality of us all. Truly We are ONE and in our ONENESS We Shall Rise Above!
With so much love,
Wednesday, October 26, 2016
As the time gets nearer for my retreat “Return to your Radiance” Healing the inner child before the holidays, I feel myself really connecting with my inner child. This awareness is showing me the many ways I have yet to grow up. It is bringing clarity to behavioral patterns that are in place that do not support what I say I want. It is showing me the incongruences that keep me from having the life I want. It is showing me how I unconsciously sabotage myself . What does it look like and how to address?
It shows up as
- a desire to create more than execute
- A want to get my own way more than make a way
- An increase in eating sugary foods
- lack of focus
- resistance to planning
How it shows up in each of our lives will be different. The point is she/he is there slowing eroding relationships and poisoning our ability to stand fully in our power. How do you change these behaviors? There are three essential keys to changing them and when practiced you will see amazing results.
- First Key Awareness
- You can’t become aware if you’re not willing to pay attention to yourself.
- Connect to yourself hold your left hand on your heart and your right hand on the hara-point just below the belly button then ask yourself “what do I really need, desire and feel?” and then get quiet.
- You have to accept full responsibility for your life and all that has happened, all that is present in order to create a future you and a future unlike the present state of affairs.
- Holding your right hand on your heart and your left hand onto of it repeat 3 X’s out loud and 3X’s silently “I deeply and unconditionally, Love, appreciate and accept myself exactly as I am.” Sit quietly in that space focusing on your heart. Breathe into your heart and out of the hara-point ,the space just below your belly button but above the sacral chakra. (If you don’t know the chakras please google or request a chakra chart from me)
3. Third Key Acknowledgement
- You have to acknowledge the behavior in the moment that it is happening or in the very least take an assessment of yourself daily to acknowledge whether your life is moving in the direction you desire or not.
- Journal nightly and ask yourself the following 10 questions before you lay you down to sleep.
- How loving was I to myself today?
- Did I keep my commitments to myself?
- Did I follow or deviate from plans I laid out for myself?
- Did what I did today bring me closer to my dreams?
- Have I exhibited this behavior before?
- Which of my choices supported what I said I want?
- Which of my choices not support what I said I want?
- How did I blame others for my choices today?
- How did I take full responsibility for my choices?
- What choices can I make tomorrow or now that will show self Love and are free of blame, shame and attack?
End this process using the second key. Doing this process nightly you will see amazing results!
These first three keys lay the foundation to support you in taking the next most appropriate step in creating an action plan for your desires. It helps clear the slate so that when you begin you are starting from a place of calm, self-love and inner cooperation. You are going to want to create a schedule, regimen, or system that allows for creativity and structure carved out in the way you can fully enjoy both aspect of yourself, the adult you and the inner child you. The inner child isn’t something we want to lock away, destroy or get ride of. They are a valuable and necessary aspect of our being that keeps us young, lively and joyful just because we are alive. Working together with our inner child we can live full abundant lives filled with joy and laughter.
Tuesday, February 16, 2016
For those of us who've experience sexual abuse and have issues with creating healthy boundaries creating the boundaries can feel intimidating. We haven't had a clear sense of what ours is to protect, especially if you felt unprotected. On a very deep level the abuse taught us that we weren't entitled to personal space because it was our very own person and space that was violated. We often see people who have clear
boundaries as mean, guarded or aloof. Inside our soul is crying out for us to stand up for them.
I have often gone around unconsciously allowing people to violate my personal space. Even when I felt uncomfortable, taking small steps to create distance between me and them I didn't challenge it when the space was trespassed upon again for fear of appearing mean or making the other person uncomfortable. I also in turn violated others personal space, not valuing or understanding their want for distance. I labeled them as uncaring, mean or I felt rejected.
Boundaries are necessary. Creating boundaries is healthy and a necessary part of the process of healing the inner wounded that has created a chasm between you and self worth. The value of caring for ourself through creating boundaries reaps plentiful rewards. It fosters self respect, self worth and self appreciation. It allows us to walk the earth as equals. As Responsible BEings fully capable of living life on our own terms. It releases co dependence, judgment and shame. It enables us to walk with our head held high because we Finally Know who we are and our Value comes from inside and we are not defined by anything or anyone
Monday, December 21, 2015
It’s almost 3 am. I’ve been up since midnight. I awoke after having fallen asleep early. As I lay in bed contemplating what to do, trying “not” to wake myself up, I heard the howling of an animal. I thought it might be a squirrel. It sounded like it was having a fight. If you’ve ever heard squirrels fighting the noise is quite shrill. This went on for quite a while. It went on so long that I got up and looked out the window to see what I could see but no animals were in sight. I watched as two people strolled side by side. The looked in the direction of the noise but did not stop. I listened, suspended between a desire to run out and save the poor creature and scared of what I might find. I listened as the howling turned to a whimper and then to silence. It was a fight after all, a fight to the death. In the silence I tried to feel something. I knew, or at least I thought I knew, that I was supposed to feel something. But I felt nothing. So I lay there for the next three hours, reading posts on Facebook, checking emails and making pictures on my phone. Then I remembered that it was Solstice, the celebration of the cycles of life. I remembered that this is the time that we are preparing to go within. The lesson that is a gift was almost lost to me. But in the wee hours of the darkness I saw the light.
The gift was the knowing that like the animal, fighting for its life by God knows what that was attacking it, we to must go through the fight between our ego and our Soul Self. The struggle is an old paradigm. The old paradigm of the way we were to the new becoming that we will see when the first frost begins to thaw and spring nears. The fight is the ego trying to keep us in the light. Trying to keep us from facing the shadows that come up when we go within. It is a fruitless fight. For as surely as the animal gasped its last breath, we too shall gasp and finally succumb to dealing with our shadow self. It can be a gentle process when there is no fight when we go willingly into the dark. And just as suspended between the desire to help the poor creature and afraid of what I might find, we sit suspended at Solstice between the lessening of the day into the night afraid of what we might find. Like the quote from Marianne Williamson says:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
We wield the power to break every chain that has kept us playing small and frightened of our Magnificence when we go into the dark. We realize that we are the light we’ve been waiting for.
So as I find myself being drawn to the night, enjoying the beauty that the darkness brings and enjoying the stillness and silence that can only be found in the darkness, My Soul lights up. I AM illuminated. I go into my prayer closet. I go into the shadows that I have with a flashlight filled with Faith, a Candle of Hope and an abundance of Courage to light the way. I Go in Peace to piece together all of who I AM so that I remember I AM WHOLE.
This Solstice I invite you to go willingly into your quiet place. Take full advantage of the shorter days and begin to get in rhythm with the season. Wind down early. Sit quietly in the dark and contemplate your life. Bring illumination to your behaviors by being willing to see yourself. Really see yourself. See what motivates you. What brings you joy and what breaks your heart. What behaviors are default behaviors cultivated in childhood? Are you passive because you’re afraid of conflict or have a need to be liked? Are you aggressive because you’re afraid of intimacy? Are you bitter because you created a defense against having a good time because it was always followed by something bad? Get to know who you are this winter, then the need to want to be someone else will be released. A sweet opening in your heart emerges and you will find the love you’ve been looking for in all the wrong places. You will find the approval you’ve been seeking outside yourself. You will find the permission you’ve been waiting for to Live the Life of Your Dreams!
Monday, September 14, 2015
When we wake up in the morning most often we focus on what we have to do for the day. We go over the laundry list of things and make check marks in our head about what "needs" to take place. For some this is the process. Yet take moment and imagine instead that before you go over the list of "things" to do, you first set your intention (making a conscious decision to do a particular thing a particular way) on how you want to experience the things that you are going to do. How different your day would be if you decide in advance that "today when I do the laundry, cook dinner or attend the 11 am meeting, I AM going to BE FULLY PRESENT AND ENJOY IT!"
Starting out on any task without having an intention is like driving without a destination. Set your destination for Joy in every experience and cruise through the day with a different outlook. If you need help doing this, let Women Healing Zone help you do just that!