The boundaries of Love

Positive Post a Day #91
For those of us who've experience sexual abuse and have issues with creating healthy boundaries creating the boundaries can feel intimidating. We haven't had a clear sense of what ours is to protect, especially if you felt unprotected. On a very deep level the abuse taught us that we weren't entitled to personal space because it was our very own person and space that was violated. We often see people who have clear
boundaries as mean, guarded or aloof. Inside our soul is crying out for us to stand up for them.

I have often gone around unconsciously allowing people to violate my personal space. Even when I felt uncomfortable, taking small steps to create distance between me and them I  didn't challenge it when the space was trespassed upon again for fear of appearing mean or making the other person uncomfortable. I also in turn violated others personal space, not valuing or understanding their want for distance. I labeled them as uncaring, mean or I felt rejected.

Boundaries are necessary. Creating boundaries is healthy and a necessary part of the process of healing the inner wounded that has created a chasm between you and self worth. The value of caring for ourself through creating boundaries reaps plentiful rewards. It fosters self respect, self worth and self appreciation. It allows us to walk the earth as equals. As Responsible BEings fully capable of living life on our own terms. It releases co dependence, judgment and shame. It enables us to walk with our head held high because we Finally Know who we are and our Value comes from inside and we are not defined by anything or anyone
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Beware of a wolf in sheep’s clothing.

On the journey of life as we endeavor to change and to grow sometimes we revert back to old patterns of thought or behavior armed with new information. The wolf shows up in sheep’s clothing. That is why we must be ever vigilant in stalking, questioning and monitoring our behavior and at the first signs of an old pattern that was not serving you then you and that you can trust will not serve you now even if it may come dressed as new.  we must immediately insert positive reinforcement and positive corrective actions to disarm and expose the imposter.

In rekindling me the false “me” showed up yesterday. She is not the “me” I want to rekindle. She is the little girl in a woman’s body who still wants to know she is beautiful. Who has learned her looks are what makes her valuable and prostitutes her-self to feed the addiction to being desired. I know very well her ways. She would have you to think I have kept her hidden. She will wile you with her wisdom that she gleans from the mind that we share but her actions will show you that she does not believe the information that she is privy too. She still sells her-self and places her-self worth on the external validation and approval of others. She eats foods that do not sustain or support her highest and best being, that increase her potential for disease, killing the very instrument she is using because she is unaware of its True value. She ingests the spirit and drives as though her mind is clear. It is GRACE that has kept her safe from harm, Grace that has driven her home, Grace that has saved her from herself. Do not be fooled by her. She is not all of me. She is a part of me but in my mind we play that game “Will the real Ki-Mani please stand up?” and she rises and I RISE!